“People change best by feeling good, not by feeling bad” – Author of Tiny Habits, BJ Fogg, Ph.D.
Wonder why “motivating” yourself with shame doesn’t work?
You know, beating yourself up after you eat way too much dinner and then snacking way into the night or sleeping in when you had told yourself you would get up early to exercise.
After your serious “talking to”, you think tomorrow will be different.
Of course, judging and demeaning yourself into “better behavior” appears to be helpful but in fact IT IS NOT.
Remember that definition of insanity – repeating something over and over again and expecting different results.
So now what to do?
STOP JUDGING YOURSELF. Whaaat? How to do you break that go-to habit?
The first step is to be aware of your negative self-talk. Listen and even write down what you are saying to yourself.
Next you look at what you are thinking/writing with CURIOSITY AND COMPASSION.
Become the watcher of your thoughts, feeling and action cycle.
Now be the scientist and experiment by being intentional and plot a new course based on feeling good about yourself and not bad.
These ch-ch-changes will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE!
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