Motivation

Going back to the Gym?

June 30, 2022 by VickyCountessCoaching

Recently, I was coaching someone who wanted to get back into the habit of going to the gym because she now started to feel “slovenly.”

She wanted to feel better mentally and physically.

And it’s no secret that regular exercise can do that for you.

In her case, she fell out of the habit of going to the gym for a variety of reasons.

Besides staying away to stay safe from COVID, another big sticking point was that the gym, once close to her home, now moved 20 minutes away.

In her mind, going to the gym now became “too big of a chunk out of my day.”

What are the obstacles for you to head back to the gym (or getting back to exercising)?

Let me walk you through some of the questions, that we explored, that you can ask yourself and get moving.

Ask and honestly answer:

Why do you want to go to the gym or exercise? Come up with some meaningful reasons. Do you like your reasons?
Explore all the thoughts around why you think you “can’t” go now? Are they true?
What other thoughts and ways to exercise are available to you?

Look at your calendar and figure out exactly when it would work for you and have a plan B of when to go.

What will it cost you if you don’t go to the gym or exercise?

Make the decision . . . and honor it.

By the end of our coaching, there was a new mindset about the travel time to the gym and while exercising, times and days selected that would work for her, including a plan B.

Most importantly there was a new determination to get back to feeling better about herself.

If you want some help and ongoing support to have meaningful exercise in your life, feel free to reach out for a complimentary session to explore your situation and how I can get you feeling better.

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes

May 13, 2022 by VickyCountessCoaching

“People change best by feeling good, not by feeling bad” – Author of Tiny Habits, BJ Fogg, Ph.D.

Wonder why “motivating” yourself with shame doesn’t work?

You know, beating yourself up after you eat way too much dinner and then snacking way into the night or sleeping in when you had told yourself you would get up early to exercise.

After your serious “talking to”, you think tomorrow will be different.

Of course, judging and demeaning yourself into “better behavior” appears to be helpful but in fact IT IS NOT.

Remember that definition of insanity – repeating something over and over again and expecting different results.

So now what to do?

STOP JUDGING YOURSELF. Whaaat? How to do you break that go-to habit?

The first step is to be aware of your negative self-talk. Listen and even write down what you are saying to yourself.

Next you look at what you are thinking/writing with CURIOSITY AND COMPASSION.

Become the watcher of your thoughts, feeling and action cycle.

Now be the scientist and experiment by being intentional and plot a new course based on feeling good about yourself and not bad.

These ch-ch-changes will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE!

I help women get the results of living a healthier and happier life through healthy habits. It’s never too late. Book a complimentary call to see for yourself!

Have you planned to NOT want to do the expected?

May 13, 2022 by VickyCountessCoaching

I was speaking to someone recently who was planning to sign up for Disney’s Goofy’s Race and a Half challenge for next January.

This means that on Saturday you run a ½ marathon (13.1 miles) and the following day, Sunday, you run a full marathon (26.2 miles).

Of course, don’t confuse this with the Dopey run where runners do 5K, 10K, ½ marathon and the full marathon in 4 consecutive days – a total of 48.6 miles.

People that do this really are Goofy and Dopey, right?

Having done a few Disney ½ marathons (not in the Goofy or Dopey challenge), we talked about what she would need to plan for in training for the event.

One of the tips I shared is EXPECT that there will be times that she will NOT want to do the planned training.

And this is something YOU need to know whenever you choose and work towards a goal – whether it is stopping overeating, having (more) exercise in your life or any other healthy habit goal.

Your brain will throw up obstacles and sentences like:

“It’s too hard”
*I don’t feel like it”
*What was I thinking, forget this”
“I don’t follow through”

Knowing exactly what to say to yourself in that moment when these thoughts creep in (and they will) is critical.

Your new “go-to thought” that gets you over the hurdle needs to be believable and compelling.

Here are some possibilities:

“This is how I get stronger”
“My body loves this, and I love my body”
“This is really good for me”
“I can do this!”

I know that different and more believable motivational thoughts will definitely change what you do and results!

If you are ready to make changes in your life and want the support, powerful tools, strategies and accountability that life coaching with me can offer, please click here to schedule a complimentary call.

Here we will dive into YOUR goals and how I can help you get there.