A long time ago, someone told me the 11th commandment:

“Thou shalt not ‘should’ on thyself.”

How funny — and yet how true. If you’re like me, you regularly think about how you “should” be doing something. Whether it’s:

• I should be more productive
• I should be feeling better
• I should be doing a better job
• I should have exercised this morning or made better food choices

…and the list goes on and on.

Here’s the thing — there’s really no upside to these “should” thoughts.

They weigh us down and leave us feeling guilty, shamed, and stuck.

So, what now?

Try replacing “should” with “could.”

• “I could weigh less.”
• “I could exercise more.”
• “I could eat healthier.”

 
Suddenly, it’s empowering. You can decide:

I could do it now.

I could do it later.

I could choose not to — and be okay with that.

Once you’ve explored what you could do, you can move into the “I will” stage, if you choose to:

• “I will take a 20-minute walk today”
• “I will enjoy one healthy meal”
• “I will try a small change I’ve been avoiding”

 
This is where action becomes possible.

You focus, commit, and make choices that actually move you forward.

Should → Could → I Will

There are still 8 weeks left in 2025.

Two months is plenty of time to feel lighter, stronger, and more confident heading into the new year.

So here’s the question to ask yourself:

How do I want to feel on December 31?

If you want support, accountability, and a clear, personalized plan to help you get there, I’ve got you.